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| 26th November 2011 - Our wedding day |
Today
marks exactly 2 years in our journey in marriage with Racheal, it has been a
blessing to have my dear wife in my life. Other than the blessing of salvation
I received from God as a young boy on 17th March 1993, my wife is the second
gift that God gave me. I want to just share how I met my wife and finally
married her on 26th November 2011.
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| 9th October 2010 - At Racheal's home |
I
first came into contact with Racheal in 2005 shortly after completing my
tertiary education. I was in the same class with my wife’s elder sister
(Melissa) and we were so close that at times we used to study together. After
completing school and graduating, I continued being friends with Melissa and I
used to visit her home frequently as we were staying in the same neighborhood
in Nkana West, Kitwe.
One
day as we were walking into town with Melissa, we bumped into Racheal who was
coming from the opposite direction, she was coming from a funeral where she
went to spend a night, her friend lost her mother. She said hi to us and
Melissa introduced me to her saying ‘this is my kid sister Racheal’, she had a
big smile on her face and I quickly said, “hi, nice meeting you”. She then
proceeded home and we continued with our journey into town. Whatever discussion
we had with Melissa was put on hold and I began to ask about Racheal, I started
by saying, “I didn’t know you had a young sister”… and she just smiled.
16th October 2010 - PPAZ VCT outreach
Then
as days went by and I was finding her home, we eventually became friends. I began to
feel bad in the sense that Melissa was my friend and I began to get closer and
closer to Racheal each time I saw her, so I stopped visiting their home. I was
missing in action and again I started visiting their home. Melissa was seeing
someone at the time and Racheal had just broken up with the guy she was seeing.
We began to have walks and it was a wonderful experience for me as it was the
first time I had real feelings for someone of the opposite sex.
24th October 2010 at our friend's engagement
Our
friendship grew stronger and she introduced me to her friends at Young Men's
Christian Association (YMCA) where she was a volunteer. By then I was working
for Zambia State Insurance as a Sales Executive and she was studying two
different programs at Zambia Institute of Business Studies and Industrial
Practice (ZIBSIP) doing her Diploma in Food Production and also evening classes
at the University of Zambia (UNZA) doing a Diploma in Project Planning and
Management. I kept wondering why she was studying like that and how she used to
manage studying two programs at the same time, when I asked her she said that
she liked keeping her mind busy at all times.
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23rd April 2011 at Palmwood Lodge
11th March 2012 - Chingola
At Ezra Thole's Wedding - 2012
I
changed jobs from ZSIC to C&B Engineering Limited in 2006 and our
friendship grew stronger, she also started work near my work place at Pamo
Lodge. I wanted to start a relationship with her but she kept refusing and did
not give me reasons. I need to say here that when a lady says NO, there is need
not to give up easily because most ladies don’t just say ‘YES’ the first time
we guys ask. I had to continue visiting her and getting to know her better but
when I brought up the issue of a relationship she still said NO.
10th June 2012
On
10th April 2007 a dark cloud dawned on Racheal’s family as she lost her mother,
she did not fall sick but was just disturbed by a cry of a baby when she was
dozing which raised her bp, she was rushed to Kitwe Central Hospital but it
seems the Lord had other plans for her. It was a sad moment and I only got the
sad news later that evening from Melissa. I visited the funeral house though I
never saw Racheal as she was in the house. A month later on 9th May, she lost
her Elder sister Getrude (Bana Ham). This was indeed a big blow and a great
loss to the Kumwenda family. I visited the funeral house again and this time I
sat with Racheal outside and she narrated what really transpired, it seemed
Bana Ham had a lot that she was thinking about, she was the oldest in Racheal’s
family. She was put to rest on 11th May.
Again the following day after putting
her elder sister to rest, Racheal’s friend from YMCA lost her mother and
Racheal went to spend a night at the funeral house. I talked to her on phone
and expressed my condolences over the losses… She told me that she was going to
spend a night at the friends place for the funeral; I tried to talk her down as
they were going through a lot as a family and she needed to stay home and rest
but she refused and insisted on going. On the burial day, she fell sick at the
grave yard and was taken to Kitwe Central Hospital where she was hospitalized.
I got a call from Ethel a friend from YMCA saying that she was admitted in
hospital and I quickly dashed to see her after work. Her Blood Pressure was
high and the doctor advised her to rest. She got discharged and after a week on
22nd May 2007 she finally said yes and I was the happiest young man at this
particular time. This was the first time I felt complete as there was something
missing in my life… (My lost rib). We started informing our friends and family
and Mr. Bestone Chileya became our counselor.
In
December 2010, I left C&B Engineering Limited and joined Tata Zambia in
Lusaka, this was a joyous moment in my career and again a sad moment as I left
Racheal in Kitwe, she was at this time working for A Safer Zambia (ASAZA), a
Care International led Project as a counselor and Social worker. I moved to
Lusaka but then kept coming back to Kitwe during my weekends for counseling and
wedding preparations. Mr. Simon Chilongoshi my former church mate was
coordinating the wedding arrangements. We planned to marry in November as
Racheal’s contract with Care International
was expiring sometime in November that same year. We married on 26th
November, 2011 at Nkana East Chapel and my wife moved to Lusaka. We now have
two lovely children, Micah Madalitso Kamanga and Precious Khumbo Kamanga.
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